Happiness is indeed not something readymade; it comes from our actions

By Zara Waqas

Dalai Lama had famously declared that happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions. This quote has fascinated me immensely. I am sure that many of you like it too. 

Happiness is a subjective phenomenon that everyone seeks in their own way. It varies from person to person and it can be influenced by different factors. 

Generally, we search for happiness in things, people, money, and experiences that we believe will bring us a sense of fulfilment and joy. 

However, happiness is not something that can be bought, borrowed, or begged for. It is a state of mind that can only be attained by taking action to nurture and cultivate it within oneself. 

According to Denis Waitley, happiness cannot be travelled to, owned, earned, worn, or consumed. 

Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude. It's all about our thinking. If we have a habit of looking at negative aspect of everything, and if we are unable to accept reality or cannot admit our mistakes, then what will happen in the end? 

Let me tell you, we will lose our confidence and grace. Blaming others for our mistakes or faults will turn us cruel and will affect our relations with classmates, friends, and relatives, and in the end, we will be left alone in this world. 

There is a simple formula for happiness. Try to help others by all means, make ways for others to progress, meet people with crystal clear hearts and sweet smiles on your face, use polite words, be humble and kind, be honest in your deeds and last but not the least, keep doing what makes you happy. 

Of course, watching videos or playing games all the time on mobile or tablets may not serve the purpose. Let us be realistic and use our time and energy wisely and positively. Because our future and happiness both are in our own hands. 

Always remember, happiness is a choice and it can only come from within you. Let us learn to appreciate all small blessings that we take for granted. It all depends on us, how we take things. It is upto us whether we make life a burden for ourselves or embrace it with open arms. 

I have read somewhere that life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what is there until you open and taste it. How true, isn’t it? 

Outside factors and other people can also affect our happiness. If someone close to us dies or if we fall sick or pick up a serious injury all of these things are not going to make us feel happy. Grief and feelings of sadness are all part and parcel of life and we need to go through them to appreciate all the good things in life that make us happy. 

Happiness is a result of our choices and mindset, not something that just happens to us. Another beautiful saying of Charles Spurgeon is that it's not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.